|Cyberbullying—What is it, What Harm Does it Do and What Can Adults Do to Help?, Part Two
By Sr. Patricia E. Hudson CSJ, LMHC
Cyberbullying is using the Internet, cell phones, and social networking sites to send texts or pictures that are intended to embarrass, hurt, or destroy the privacy or reputation of another person. The definition is similar to school bullying. It must be hurtful, repetitive, and have an imbalance of power. The difference is that cyberbullying is with you twenty-four-hours a day, it spreads immediately after being posted, and can be viewed by thousands within minutes. Unlike school or playground bullying, you cannot walk away from cyberbullying. It is more insidious because often it is difficult to find the source and impossible to erase or retract what has already been written and posted.
What harm does cyberbullying do?
Children who are cyberbullied are
How is cyberbullying accomplished?
What should parents, teachers, and other caring adults do?
Teach the children and teens to follow these safety rules
Educators can request that children sign an agreement saying they will not bully, establish use of cyberbullying policies in school, and tell parents to establish safety guidelines at home.
Police can stay up to date, understand the technology, and learn how to contact social networking sites to get cyberbullying comments removed.
Community leaders can organize community meetings informing the public about cyberbullying prevention. This can also be an opportunity to publicize the legal implications for cyberbullying.
Parents need to be vigilant
Sometimes when boys and girls reach adolescence they become more private, communicate less than usual, stay in their rooms, are moody, or just seem different. Parents tend to chalk it up to them being “at that age.” Some changes are normal, but in a world where we have an epidemic of bullying and cyberbullying, it is important to talk to your adolescent to learn what is going on. Is it just “that age” or are they victims of bullying or cyberbullying? Sometimes it’s difficult to make that call because the adolescent is reluctant to reveal what has happened. Often they feel embarrassed or ashamed. Be patient and calm when you are discussing possible bullying or cyberbullying with your son or daughter. Depending on the type of bullying, your child can be vulnerable for depression, truancy, and even suicide.
Parents should be aware of the behavior they see at home. What example do you set for your children? You might not be a bully, but maybe someone in the family is bullying. It starts small—sometimes with simple teasing, but it can escalate into bullying or cyberbullying activity.
Caution—It is also important to note that some teachers or coaches seem to take on a bulling role with a child or adolescent, so parents must be alert to this type of bullying too.
www.wiredsafety.org for children, teens and adults
www.stopcyberbullying.org for parent’s teachers and police officers
To read part one of this article, Bullying--What Parents, Teachers, Adult Volunteers, and Children Need to Know, Part One, click here.
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